The unconditional love a spouse provides is hard to believe but wonderful once accepted, it’s a form of intimacy.
Chronic illness affects all those around you and to acknowledge what your spouse is dealing with and the honesty you have with each other is extremely important. Unfortunately, not all who are dealing with chronic illness have that.
Thanks for sharing this perspective of marriage/ chronic illness. I had a different experience ( my ex. who was aware of my illness before we married and had a child decided it was too much and made the decision to be unfaithful and then leave). At the time I thought I would never trust another human being again. Fourteen years later, I’m a stronger person, a grateful mother with an amazing son, and learning to love and trust again. Chronic illness is hard on everyone but when you have someone ( even one person) in your corner it is possible to live joyfully.
I struggle a lot with that thought as well about wondering what my husband gets out of being married to a sick person. It's so tough! But we are worthy of love, regardless. I often tell myself if the roles were reversed how would I react? And it wouldn't even be a question. Congrats on ten years, that's worth celebrating!
This really resonated with me because my husband and I go through similar things, although I was diagnosed before we met. I told him about it in the beginning of our relationship, and 24 years later, he’s still here, even though he’s the one who takes care of almost everything (including picking up poop). Thank you for pointing out what your husband goes through; it makes me more aware about how my w husband’s struggles. I’m too busy thinking about myself sometimes.
What a beautiful piece of writing. You are so fortunate. So many of us with chronic illness are in it alone (which is its own form of being a hero). I hope you can find the path to becoming more and more of your own inner Shero … so that he can be more of himself, too. Sending love.
The unconditional love a spouse provides is hard to believe but wonderful once accepted, it’s a form of intimacy.
Chronic illness affects all those around you and to acknowledge what your spouse is dealing with and the honesty you have with each other is extremely important. Unfortunately, not all who are dealing with chronic illness have that.
Wow. Loved this. “To fulfill rather than be fulfilled.” Cory sounds like a keeper…. You too.
Thanks for sharing this perspective of marriage/ chronic illness. I had a different experience ( my ex. who was aware of my illness before we married and had a child decided it was too much and made the decision to be unfaithful and then leave). At the time I thought I would never trust another human being again. Fourteen years later, I’m a stronger person, a grateful mother with an amazing son, and learning to love and trust again. Chronic illness is hard on everyone but when you have someone ( even one person) in your corner it is possible to live joyfully.
I have dreams like that too. And my H always laughs and me and asks "is that what you really think of me?" And I have to say no, of course not.
I struggle a lot with that thought as well about wondering what my husband gets out of being married to a sick person. It's so tough! But we are worthy of love, regardless. I often tell myself if the roles were reversed how would I react? And it wouldn't even be a question. Congrats on ten years, that's worth celebrating!
This really resonated with me because my husband and I go through similar things, although I was diagnosed before we met. I told him about it in the beginning of our relationship, and 24 years later, he’s still here, even though he’s the one who takes care of almost everything (including picking up poop). Thank you for pointing out what your husband goes through; it makes me more aware about how my w husband’s struggles. I’m too busy thinking about myself sometimes.
What a beautiful piece of writing. You are so fortunate. So many of us with chronic illness are in it alone (which is its own form of being a hero). I hope you can find the path to becoming more and more of your own inner Shero … so that he can be more of himself, too. Sending love.
I have a Crack moving across my windshield too!!!! I hate it. My car is turning into a dumpster and it's only 3 years old.
The tape is brilliant even if it screams #FAIL 🤣